Imagine being diagnosed with breast cancer. All of a sudden you’re consumed with thoughts of possible loss. You might have to lose your hair because of chemo, your might have to have a single or double mastectomy and lose your breasts, and oh well there’s that chance that you might also lose your life too if the cancer spreads. In other words you’re scared as hell.
You decide to log on to Facebook to check in on friends… maybe you’ll play a couple of games to help you avoid the real world for a while. But when you log on you see posts from multiple female friends saying that they’re going on these amazing trips. One says she’s going on a 10 month trip to Germany while another says she’s going on a 2 month trip to Australia. Aside from being shocked that so many friends are taking huge trips you think to yourself that it must be nice to be able to plan something that big without worrying about cancer getting in the way.
Then you check your FB inbox and come across this…
Okay ladies, it’s that time of year again…support of Breast Cancer Awareness!! So we all remember last year’s game of writing your bra color as your status? Or the way we like to have our handbag handy?
Last year, so many people took part that it made national news and the constant updating of status reminded everyone why we’re doing this and helped raise awareness!! Do NOT TELL ANY MALES!!!!!! what the statuses mean…keep them guessing!!
And please copy and paste (in a message) this to all your female friends! It’s time to confuse the men again (not that it’s really that hard to do ;]) The idea is to choose the month you were born and the day you were born. Pass this on to the GIRLS ONLY and lets see how far it reaches around. The last one about the bra went around all over the world. Your status should say: “I am going to________________for___________ months.”
The day you were born should be for how many months you are going.
June– St Petersburg
September– New York
Aside from the ridiculous overuse of exclamation points and bad grammar, what really pisses you off is that not only are your friends LYING about a trip they’re taking but they’re doing it in “support of Breast Cancer Awareness.” You’re facing a life changing and possibly life threatening illness and this is what your friends are doing to support the cause?
Don’t get me wrong… I love a good meme just like the rest of you. If someone sends me a way to find out what my Star Wars, Harry Potter or porn name is I’m all for figuring it out and posting it on FB. However, this bullshit trend of saying that these meme’s are in support of a cause is just that… bullshit.
Excuse my French but what the FUCK does lying about a trip you’re going to take do to spread cancer awareness?! I get pissed off every time one of these so-called breast cancer awareness meme’s rolls around. The purse one was fine… stupid but fine. The bra one was insulting to breast cancer patients and survivors around the world. Yeah let’s post on Facebook what color our bras are in “support” of women who might not even have breasts anymore… that’s fucking brilliant! So this time around some genius thought, “Okay, we won’t use anything that’s connected with breasts this time… let’s just flat out lie! That’ll be SO funny!” Seriously?
Yes, these stupid ass meme’s do get press. But what press do they get? A one minute blurb on the news saying that women are posting “mysterious” status updates to FB in order to support cancer awareness. That’s it. There’s no follow up that deals with ACTUAL breast cancer awareness! So essentially the meme is a lazy ass way to SAY that you’re supporting cancer awareness while you really aren’t doing a damn thing.
Here’s what I propose… a meme that actually means something. One that educates people, inspires people to help, raises funds for research/treatment, honors survivors, and remembers those who lost the fight to cancer. One that includes EVERYONE. Men get breast cancer too, you know? They also love women who have or had breast cancer… it’s absolutely ridiculous to leave them out. How do you think the man who lost his wife to breast cancer feels about your so-called support?
So instead of putting a lie up as your status and leaving out men do this instead. Complete the sentence below and use it as your status.
I’m not posting about a fake trip to “support breast cancer awareness,” instead I am truly supporting breast cancer awareness by ____.
Fill in that blank with things that actually DO SOMETHING! Things like:
… knitting/crocheting chemo caps to donate to the local cancer center.
… volunteering at my hospital/hospice/cancer center to support cancer patients.
…donating x amount of dollars to my favorite cancer charity.
…telling my story about how I survived breast cancer.
…telling my story about how scary it was when my ___ had breast cancer.
…telling you what it was like to lose my __ to breast cancer.
…getting a mammogram!
…driving my friend to get a mammogram.
…attending a cancer fundraiser with friends and survivors.
…giving a hug to my best friend who is cancer patient and holding his/her hand.
The possibilities are endless really, and get this… you don’t have to LIE! As a matter of fact, you don’t even need to stick to breast cancer… use the meme to support all cancer awareness! I can guarantee that by doing this meme you’ll be much more supportive to those who have cancer, had cancer, or lost someone to cancer.
So what are YOU going to do for cancer awareness? Leave your answer in the comments, post it to Facebook and by all means, share the hell out of this post anywhere you want!